Are you unhappy at work ? Do you feel that nothing is good and that it is all due to someone else’s fault. If that’s the case what do you think will happen – it will only continue to get worse. UNLESS you do something about it.
Remember everything begins with you. It is all about you as you cannot change others but you can change yourself.
If you have never thought about this before, take my advice and become totally responsible for who you are and where you want your life to take you… you will become a much more successful and happier person. Not only that, these habits allow you to build upon your success like nothing else. Stop all negative thoughts and get POSITIVE, take control of YOURSELF as this is the only thing you can control. YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR ACTIONS.
You can make a start by making a list of everything you like about your job, including your compensation, benefits, role, colleagues etc. With this you will realize what you are actually getting and things may look a lot more positive. In fact you may realize that the good outweighs the negative aspects and in fact there may well be many things you love about your job. With this realization, some self talk stressing the positive will play a major role in changing your perspective. HOW ? By looking in the mirror and stressing the things you love about your job you will be reaffirming the positives.
One of the most effective ways to increase a positive self is by choosing the language you use. The words that come out of our mouth aren’t just a reflection of what’s in your brain–they’re programming your brain how to think. Therefore, if you want to have a positive attitude, your vocabulary must be consistently positive. For example :
- Stop using negative phrases such as “I can’t,” “It’s impossible,” or “This won’t work.” These statements are only programming you for negative results and failure.
- Whenever anyone asks “How are you?” rather than “hanging’ in there,” or “Okay, I guess…” respond with “Terrific!” or “Never felt better!” And show that you mean it.
- When you’re feeling angry or upset, substitute neutral words for emotionally loaded ones. Rather than saying “I’m enraged!” say “I’m a bit annoyed…”
It takes time to change. So it will not happen overnight, think of building a positive attitude in the same way that you build up your fitness program, it will take a consistent effort. Identify your strongest qualities and focus on these strengths to help create more positive experiences in your life.
Also make a list of things you enjoy doing or things you’re good at and try to do these regularly. This will also support and build your reservoir of positive experiences.
Finally, review the day and identify all the positive things about it. These can include things that made you happy, proud, awestruck, grateful, calm, content, pleased, or any other positive emotion. Recapture those moments and take time to focus on what you felt proud of or grateful for a feel good experience.
By re-experiencing those positive emotions you can reinforce those emotions for the future.