Who does not want to be successful ? I am sure you do. We all do so in the different walks of our life, be it our education, jobs, physical fitness, personal lives etc. Not only that, we also link it to our level of happiness. But when we really sit down to assess how to go about it; we tend to back off, as it all seems to involve a lot of work.
However, some latest Harvard research shows us a fun way to do it. The researcher and author of the best seller ‘The happiness advantage’ Shawn Achor demonstrates that success does not bring happiness – but rather the reverse – it is happiness that breeds success. His research focused on those who were out of the norm – the outliers. For example, why, when an entire sales force has low sales numbers there are a few with extraordinarily high numbers. Or, in a class where academic marks are below average, there are a couple of students with outstanding results.
It is a general tendency in human beings to place value in their material possessions, interests and skills – often forgetting the most important thing that they should be valuing ie THEM SELF. We tend to focus on comparing and measuring ourselves against others in the same field instead of focusing on our own inherent skills, experience and what we can offer and deliver.
What we do not realize is that if we do not value our self enough we are less likely to succeed at any role that you can imagine, be it your workplace, home, other personal roles in your life etc.
Can being too complacent derail your career ? Think about it.
We all like to feel happy in our current jobs, wanting to come to work every morning, satisfied at work, thinking ourselves to be indispensable and apart from these we like to feel at ease with our boss, our colleagues and to enjoy ourselves if the company culture is conducive to doing so. So you may think that if you truly enjoy your work why you would even contemplate a change.
The way of thinking and attitude a person adopts is what speaks for their success or failure in life. Our success at school, extracurricular activities, work or within the sphere of our family life are all affected by how we perceive our self in terms of our skills, talents and abilities.
Our mindset is the view we adopt of our self, our way of thinking and our opinions and this vision is strongly influenced by our parents initially and later our teachers. The mindset we assume in turn, then has a deep and profound impact on how we learn and on which direction we take in our lives.
Self-esteem is often described as having confidence in our ability to think and cope with the daily challenges of life. It is also linked to being self assured and confident in ones abilities and having a belief in the fact that you can be successful in whatever you undertake to do.
When a person has a high level of self-esteem, they will trust their actions and their judgment and by doing so they will be in a better position to make good decisions and create a better life for themselves.
It is becoming more and more common in Pakistan that most people work at whatever job they are doing, just for the sake of working. To them, working means getting a daily wage or a monthly pay check, at the end of the month and for them there is nothing more to it. You will observe this in the attitude of blue collar workers as well as employees in white collar administrative jobs in fact even at managerial levels. What impact does this have on productivity and how can we change this attitude?
They say that it takes maybe only three seconds, for you to evaluate another person when you meet for the first time. During this short span of time, you form your opinion about the other based on many things which you are subconsciously evaluating, which may include – overall appearance, dressing, body language, behaviour, mannerisms, etc.
Sometimes it can be extremely difficult or in fact nearly impossible to reverse or undo these first impressions therefore making these first meetings extremely important, for it is this interaction which may set the tone for the relationship that follows in the future.
Everyone’s life does have at least some limitations, of which there maybe few which are unchangeable. However a very large percentage of our lives is in our control —at least enough to profoundly impact how fulfilled and happy we may feel. Just knowing that you have some control is enough to change your perspective from hopeless to optimistic.
Depending on what you want to achieve from life, you may need to take some steps towards attaining them as it is only by taking those steps that you will increase your chances of obtaining what you want. You need to take some Continue reading →