In the world today being a WINNER is a sign of success. On the other hand, if somebody fails or is unproductive in our society he or she is marked as being unsuccessful. But most people are somewhere in between winning and losing and end up by winning in some areas of their lives and not so much so in others. However, victory is the ultimate factor for most of us and we tend to live and die by it.
The taste of victory is sweet and there are many advantages of winning in a competition oriented society like ours. We only realize this when we taste the fruits of winning. These may include amongst others ….
When you think of being successful, have you ever wondered how the highly successful people in this world like Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, Henry Ford and many, many others reached the top in their respective areas and stayed there.
What uniqueness did they possess that took them to such high levels ?
Who does not want to be successful ? I am sure you do. We all do so in the different walks of our life, be it our education, jobs, physical fitness, personal lives etc. Not only that, we also link it to our level of happiness. But when we really sit down to assess how to go about it; we tend to back off, as it all seems to involve a lot of work.
However, some latest Harvard research shows us a fun way to do it. The researcher and author of the best seller ‘The happiness advantage’ Shawn Achor demonstrates that success does not bring happiness – but rather the reverse – it is happiness that breeds success. His research focused on those who were out of the norm – the outliers. For example, why, when an entire sales force has low sales numbers there are a few with extraordinarily high numbers. Or, in a class where academic marks are below average, there are a couple of students with outstanding results.
It is a general tendency in human beings to place value in their material possessions, interests and skills – often forgetting the most important thing that they should be valuing ie THEM SELF. We tend to focus on comparing and measuring ourselves against others in the same field instead of focusing on our own inherent skills, experience and what we can offer and deliver.
What we do not realize is that if we do not value our self enough we are less likely to succeed at any role that you can imagine, be it your workplace, home, other personal roles in your life etc.
Can being too complacent derail your career ? Think about it.
We all like to feel happy in our current jobs, wanting to come to work every morning, satisfied at work, thinking ourselves to be indispensable and apart from these we like to feel at ease with our boss, our colleagues and to enjoy ourselves if the company culture is conducive to doing so. So you may think that if you truly enjoy your work why you would even contemplate a change.
The way of thinking and attitude a person adopts is what speaks for their success or failure in life. Our success at school, extracurricular activities, work or within the sphere of our family life are all affected by how we perceive our self in terms of our skills, talents and abilities.
Our mindset is the view we adopt of our self, our way of thinking and our opinions and this vision is strongly influenced by our parents initially and later our teachers. The mindset we assume in turn, then has a deep and profound impact on how we learn and on which direction we take in our lives.
Self-esteem is often described as having confidence in our ability to think and cope with the daily challenges of life. It is also linked to being self assured and confident in ones abilities and having a belief in the fact that you can be successful in whatever you undertake to do.
When a person has a high level of self-esteem, they will trust their actions and their judgment and by doing so they will be in a better position to make good decisions and create a better life for themselves.